ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is a challenging neurodevelopmental condition that can affect your performance in several contexts, including the workplace, classrooms, and even your home.
Even though ADHD can cause problems with day-to-day functioning, kids and adults can have a wide range of symptoms that can be hard to spot. This article focuses on how to raise ADHD teens.
Even if you are aware that your teenager has ADHD that affects their behavior, you could still feel irritated, embarrassed, or even disrespected sometimes. Parenting kids who have ADHD is challenging and demands more patience. Children still need the guidance, support, and aid of their parents. However, teenagers with ADHD are becoming increasingly independent.
Symptoms of ADHD in Teenagers
Children with ADHD may experience varied symptoms as they grow. In some circumstances, adolescent symptoms from childhood may become less troublesome, while new symptoms may develop due to the changing responsibilities that come with getting older.
Signs and symptoms of ADHD in teenagers include:
– Having trouble focusing on assignments at work or school
– Making mistakes constantly while working
– Difficulty performing tasks, especially regarding schoolwork or housework
– Challenges with task organization and time management
– Continuously losing or forgetting personal items
– Avoiding intellectually challenging chores a lot
– Having greater emotional frustration and sensitivity
– Challenges navigating social and familial situations
– More arguments with parents due to how the symptoms of ADHD impact family life
What can Parents do? How to Raise ADHD Teens?
Educate Yourself on ADHD.
Recall your previous understanding of ADHD. Make every effort to learn. Consequently, you may be able to comprehend your teenager’s behaviors better and be less frustrated by them. Remember that adolescents with ADHD are not “being harsh” on purpose.
Teens with ADHD can enhance their attention spans and energy levels. They could still need to make improvements, though. They gain control by receiving a lot of help and encouragement from their parents, teachers, and therapists.
Recognize the Signs of ADHD in Your Adolescent.
ADHD affects teenagers in different ways. Think about the most challenging concerns that your teen’s ADHD has triggered. Then, consider the skills your kid needs to acquire to minimize these problems. Consider this:
– Hyperactive teenagers might need to practice taking their time rather than rushing. They may need to learn how to relax or expend excess energy.
– Teens with impulsive behaviors may need to work on interrupting less, waiting patiently, or thinking their actions through before acting in a way that would be risky or unsafe. They might need to develop emotional self-control.
– Teenagers with attention issues may need to develop their planning, learning, and distraction-reduction skills. To manage their belongings, clean up after themselves, finish tasks or projects, or arrive on time, they may need to develop specific abilities.
Discuss ADHD and Your Shared Goals Together.
Educate your teen about ADHD. Aid your teen in comprehending ADHD. Teens greatly benefit from discussing how ADHD impacts them at home, school, and with their friends. Express knowledge and understanding.
Make sure your teen understands that having ADHD is not a fault. Be specific about the tasks you want your teen to complete simultaneously. Help teenagers understand that controlling their focus, energy, actions, and emotions is their responsibility and that you’ll support them. Set definite, attainable goals. Begin by concentrating on one thing.
How to Raise ADHD Teens? Help Out!
Your teen can’t find their shoes or homework in their disorganized room? It doesn’t help to scold or say “Clean it up!” Instead, if your teen struggles with organizing due to ADHD, help them clean things up and learn how to do it themselves.
Initially, you might have to work together. You might need to devise techniques to organize things and plan where they should go. Patiently work on it together and try to make it enjoyable if at all feasible. Recognize that more messes are likely to occur and consider carrying out this procedure repeatedly. Learning a new skill requires practice.
Develop Social Skills with Your Teen.
Teenagers might not be aware of how ADHD can impact their interpersonal interactions. Teens who interrupt too frequently, talk too much, don’t listen properly, or behave in ways that come across as dictatorial or invasive will annoy other people.
Assist your teen in recognizing when actions may have an impact on friendships. Don’t assign blame, but mention that ADHD may be a factor. When your teen interrupts, remind them, “I know you don’t mean to; ADHD makes it hard to wait when you want to say something, and I know your feelings are hurt when your friend tells you to stop,” and then assist them in coming up with a new skill to practice. Use a phrase that is clear and simple to recall. Give precise instructions on how and when to check it out, such as “wait to speak” or “listen long.”
Maintain Your Teen’s ADHD Treatment Plan.
Medication, therapy, parent counseling, and school support aid ADHD treatment. If your teen was diagnosed with ADHD and received treatment for it at a young age, their needs have undoubtedly changed. Tackle new needs and set goals by working with your teen’s physician, therapist, and academic team. Find out if your teen’s therapist offers parent management training (PMT). This kind of coaching teaches parents precise strategies for supporting their ADHD teen.
Keep the Bond Between You and Your Teen Positive.
Teens with ADHD are frequently sensitive to judgment. Many people receive it in excess, and it seldom aids in altering their conduct for the better. It’s more likely to make them feel less confident and at ease around you. Teenagers could experience feelings of depression, rage, or miscommunication as a result of this.
Focus on what you appreciate and adore about them to maintain a warm and loving relationship. Please pay close attention to what kids do well. Encourage others. Offer praise for the activities they enjoy. Together, perform activities you both enjoy. That gives everyone time to relax, laugh, and converse. Make sure your teen knows you accept them despite their difficulties.
Be Careful Not to Lecture, Nag, Accuse, or Scold.
These unfavorable reactions are more likely to enhance undesirable habits than to decrease them. Focus more on your teenager’s accomplishments than on any issues. As much as possible, be precise in your compliments—the behaviors you (and your teen) want to see more of increase as a result.
Encourage Teenagers to Recognize and Develop Their Strengths.
Teens with ADHD frequently feel as though they are failing others or that they are incapable of performing any tasks. But those that have ADHD have a lot going for them. Some of their abilities, such as fast thinking, flexibility, creativity, humor, or spontaneity, are compatible with ADHD. Find ways to use your teen’s strengths in daily life by helping them identify them. Teens’ self-esteem, resilience, and achievement can increase when they use their abilities and know that their parents perceive them.
Authored by Afifa Maryam Siddiqui
Edited by Yara Fakhoury