What is “parenting”?
A true parent supports their children in overcoming personality flaws and instilling virtues. Nevertheless, modern parents believe that their sole responsibilities are limited to spending a lot of money on expensive food and clothing for their children as well as coaching sessions. They don’t realize that these things make kids desire worldly pleasures and that these joys feed their flaws. Parents must therefore think if they are providing their children with the proper education. They are responsible for assisting their kids in developing positive traits and living happy lives. This article talks about Modern-Day Stress-Free Parenting.
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A generation can only be happy if its parents are pleased.
Parents and children should communicate openly to develop children’s thinking favorably. Children can only learn how to live a stress-free life from parents who themselves are stress-free.
Parents who can effortlessly communicate with their youngster end up affecting their personalities positively for the rest of their lives.
Talking to stressed-out parents is not appealing to children. They do not feel like discussing their concerns, ideas, or difficulties with these parents. The parents must therefore maintain a stress-free state, at least in front of their children.
Parents’ stress-related factors:
– Constantly dwelling on the past
– Verbal and behavioral negativity
– Not owning up to mistakes in front of children
– Constantly seeking out child-related problems
– Keeping one’s image while speaking with kids
– Making a compelling argument
– Ignoring that children possess divine principles
– Inadequate explanations
– Poor communication with children
– High standards
A guide to Modern-Day Stress-Free Parenting
A guide to Modern-Day Stress-Free Parenting
1. Constantly dwelling on the past
Parents who constantly think about the past cannot communicate with their kids properly. Children are always joyful because they can forget the past and focus on the present. We never stop thinking about the events and situations from the past, and we never let go of the load brought on by unpleasant past experiences. Therefore, we cannot listen to and comprehend children when they try to communicate with us. So, we must always strive to live in the moment.
2. Verbal and behavioral negativity
Comments like “You don’t know anything” and “You are worthless” distraught children. While there are ways to heal physical wounds, it is more challenging to heal mental ones. Consequently, we should constantly be positive in choosing our vocabulary and demeanor when speaking to them. We ought to talk in a way that motivates kids.
3. Not owning up to mistakes in front of children
It’s easier to relax our minds when we accept our shortcomings. Children consider us to be adults and look up to us. Because they imitate their parents, kids learn to be honest about their mistakes. When we attempt to hide our mistakes, we get tense. Children are aware of every mistake we make. When we don’t address our errors, they think “My mother and father don’t acknowledge their faults, so why should I?” And as a result, a slight gap develops between the children and the parents.
4. Constantly seeking out child-related problems
We’ll be stressed out if we constantly look for issues with our children. Instead, we should work on recognizing and valuing their outstanding qualities. Kids gradually become conscious of, accept, and attempt to overcome their personality faults. We will always be content if we concentrate on our children’s qualities rather than their shortcomings.
5. Keeping one’s image while speaking with kids
Many parents try to maintain their social standing even when talking to their children. Parents will never be able to communicate with their children effectively if they are self-conscious about their status in society. In this situation, parents are under stress, and children don’t give a damn about their status. Parents won’t be able to keep their happiness and raise their children successfully unless they set aside their occupations and social image while around their children and just behave genuinely.
6. Making a compelling argument
Children don’t enjoy it when parents  talk to them authoritatively. Instead of speaking down to them, we ought to communicate our concerns in a compassionate way. When someone talks in an authoritative manner, we don’t want to believe anything they’re saying. And children react in the same way. Therefore, we should remember that always trying to make arguments produces stress, whereas actually communicating is joyful.
7. Ignoring that children possess divine principles
When speaking with children, we must never forget that each of them possesses the Divine Principle. Be conscious of the Divine Principles they contain when talking to them. To avoid offending them, attempt to refer to children’s mistakes as concepts rather than individually blaming them.
8. Inadequate explanations
Explain to kids accurately and decently. When communicating with a youngster, we must get to their level to gain respect and capture their interest. Therefore, if the child is in first grade, the parent should use language appropriate for that age. However, because of their egos, parents cannot talk to their children on their level, so children do not value or pay attention to them. As a result, their little minds get anxious. Parents must understand that engaging children on their level will relieve their anxieties.
9. Poor communication with children
Nobody is constantly present to hear about the problems their children are having. Parents are preoccupied with work, whereas teachers are primarily concerned with completing their syllabus. Children are intellectually confused as a result. Their parents stop respecting and believing in them. Parents become frustrated when their kids refuse to listen to them. Therefore, parents must schedule at least 15 minutes for daily casual conversation with their children. The results of doing so will yield more happiness and less stress.
10. High standards
Children don’t like it when we talk to them with expectations in mind. They have relatively little ego and can instantly feel the vibrations of expectations. We ought to engage them in conversation without making any assumptions. Love is where there are no expectations. Therefore, it is safer to presume that God will look after me always rather than hope that “My kid will take care of me in my old age; he will retain and expand my reputation in society.”
Authored by Afifa Maryam Siddiqui
Edited by Yara Fakhoury
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